X Sending Sincerest Apologies to the Women and They/Thems at the Workplace

Well, hello, hi. This is X. I’m gonna make it short. It’s been a long day. How’s everybody feeling tho? Good, good.

It has come to my attention that women and the they/thems at my workplace were affected by my language and demeanor. No men included. Unsurprisingly. I think everyone reached a consensus that half of the men should be rounded up and shot, and the other half should dig the graves. 

Anyways, let’s not be male-centered right now. This is a woman's question. A woman's issue, and it ought to be taken with serious and undivided attention. 

Apparently, I got in trouble for joking around too much. As in calling women “bitch, whore, slut, cunt” and other synonyms. As for someone against prostitution because it commodifies the woman's body, my language did not reflect my political stance. I want to deeply, deeply apologize for my misbehaviors. Even tho my intention was never to degrade and objectify the women, harms were done. I’d committed to cultivating an inclusive and safe workspace in the future. My biggest mistake was thinking that all these women and they/thems were my “friends”, so we could just joke around. I myself received a fair share of insulting lingos, to be honest. But incidents like these reveal to you who’s a friend and who’s not, right? Your co-workers should never be your friends in the first place. 

Another issue was apparently, I flirted around too much and “didn’t take no for an answer after being rejected.” I could only apologize for the first part, as I flirted around too much. What could I say, I was pretty and charismatic and cute and funny and… Oh right, sorry I got distracted. At that moment, all the parties involved were clearly enjoying themselves and the attention. I was just the one who made it explicitly clear. But again, as a staff member of the place, I should've known better. One more thing, the average age of the flirtees is around 23-24, which is older than me. Gotta make it clear that I am, in fact, better than a man. And my type is a decade older woman and not underage teen girls. Not that it makes the situation any better, of course. Just need to put all the important info out there. 

The second part of the allegation was more serious. I wanted to defend myself first and foremost. I never made multiple attempts after being rejected. I can be a bit of an asshole -  with a (just) cause - but I’m not rapey, nor do I aspire to join frats and clubs and organizations that rape women. If it’s a no, then it’s a no. I’d just move on and flirt with others. That’s my style. 

From my perspective, the parties involved were the ones trying to play with me, push and pull, as well as sending mixed signals, and taking advantage of me after the rejections. We can’t be feministic and equal if we don’t hold women accountable for their right-doings and wrong-doings at the same time. It would only be fair to say that I was deeply hurt by the situation, too. Not to be blamey or shamey anyone, but all the parties involved with my flirty situation, were enjoying and reciprocating at some points. And it seems only when it no longer served their interests that they brought this up in an “informal” way. I’m open to receiving critiques, but I don’t like it when the picture is half-concealed. I also got complaints about me being rude and less friendly recently. Not to subject women to any stereotype, but they gotta make up their mind. They can’t, and won’t have access to me, or any person, for that matter, freely. It’s rude and entitled to expect someone to consistently give and give, while you just take and take. 

Again, this is my apology to the women and the they/thems I’ve hurt. You know who you are, and you know what you did. You should come forward and apologize to me for your wrongdoing. Kudos to my supervisor for handling the situation without care, but with exquisite professionalism. Very corporate-sy, amazing damage control for the sake of the organization and the workplace. Sorry, did it sound too passive-aggressive? I genuinely meant it, for real. I’m putting myself on a time-out and discipline, cause I’m a good person and I do take this feedback seriously. I won’t hold others to the same level of morality cause it’d be impossible; however, it’s good for them to correct themselves, too. 

Sincerely,

X